We’re All Under Authority: Colossians 3:18-25

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Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

Bondservants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh, not with eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but in sincerity of heart, fearing God. And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ. But he who does wrong will be repaid for what he has done, and there is no partiality.. ~ Colossians 3:18-25

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Big Family 1 by Peter Kaminski, on Flickr

Ah. The family order. Some resent this passage and others see the freedom that lies within it. I’ve been on both sides.

In fact, I have been a child, am a wife, and currently am also a bondservant (modern day worker).

This world has order in it. Why do we presume any authority is bad or for our harm?

In fact, though I enjoy being spontaneous, it is order that gives me comfort and freedom. How so? If you make plans, then you are prepared – prepared enough to deviate. Those plans could be around an event, financial, or chore-related. Planning and spontaneity are not mutually exclusive just like love and submission are not.

Wives

Submit is a hard word for many women these days to stomach, yet utter and apply. Women often picture some outlandish “Stepford Wife” scenario or think of cultish behavior. (My standard disclaimer about physical abuse goes here. Run away. Call the police. Go to a women’s shelter.)

I was married at 20. Did I mention I was a feminist? Yes, some of that extreme thinking has had to be moderated a bit. I’ve written frequently about marriage from my perspective.

Though I am a strong woman, a leader in many areas, I have learned to submit to my husband and guess what? He supports me 100%. Dare I say he encourages me to become even more of a leader? I am proud that he spurs me on to love and good deeds. I have him read every one of these posts before I publish.

I’d also like to point out the word “own.” It says to submit to your “own husband.” By pure logic, you can surmise that women aren’t generically to submit to men, just their “own husband.”

Husbands / Fathers

“Love and do not be bitter.” Wow. That’s a heart issue and is a much greater challenge than submission. What a telling thing it is that husbands have to be commanded to love their wives. This love is action-based, not feeling based. Look at the actions described in 1 Cor 13 below:

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. ~ 1 Corinthinans  13:4-7

Fathers are also told not to provoke their children. Have you seen provocative behavior? Harsh or unfair treatment? Unrealistic expectations? Withholding of affection or words of love and encouragement? I can see all of that as discouraging behavior. Continue reading

Songwriting – The Musician’s Sermon

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Do you think the lyrics in church music are important? How accurate should the lyrics be? How much artistic license should be allowed?

recent discussion on my Facebook Page about a line in a song that has been bugging me prompted much of this post.

At the last Calvary Chapel Worship Leader’s Conference  I went to in 2008 I took a songwriting class from Brenton Brown. This is what I remember from that sesson.

Every song is a sermon.

The chorus is the thesis statement.

All of the verses should support that thesis.

In the list of spiritual gifts the one that is most applicable to the worship leader and church songwriter is teaching. Continue reading

Hymn-Theology: I Once Was Lost, But Now I’m Found

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I once was lost but now I’m found.

Was blind, but now I see.

“Amazing Grace”

John Newton  (1779)

I first heard an a capella version of “Amazing Grace” by Meryl Streep at the end of the movie Silkwood (1983). I fell in love with it. I don’t know why.  I imagine the lyrics touched my soul in a way I couldn’t yet understand, not having converted to Christianity; besides which I was just a child.

I’m not sure why I waited this long to cover this song in the Hymn-Theology series, perhaps because the lyrics resonate with my testimony.  2013 marks my twenty-first year as a Christian and it is hard to believe that God has brought me so far from what was my statistical fate. Continue reading

“I Will Bless the Lord” from the CD “Come Away”

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ImageThe Lord gave me this song early in my writing career. Ben Camp, my piano teacher at the time, put the chords to this song, as he did to most of the songs on this CD.

Often we think we should praise the Lord when we feel good, but it is just the opposite. When we choose to worship, is when He fills us with His Spirit.

He is worthy of our praise and that is enough reason to worship. The Psalms are a good source of prayers and songs that David and the other Psalmists wrote to express themselves to the Lord. Whenever I am down, I turn to David, the worship leader of worship leaders.

Here is a video of the recorded version:

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Communication on Fire? Stop, Drop, And Roll

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And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell.  James 3:6

Are you the smackdown king in your marriage? Do you have a blackbelt in Tongue-Foo?  Do you have a quick, witty, albeit cuttng, remark on hand for quick and easy use?

Mercier and I are both adept at making the snide remark or two; however, our goal is to maintain healthy communication.  (I say “goal” because, much like yourself, we are only human and are bound to make mistakes.)

When I observe couples engaging in this sort of tit-for-tat war (when really a simple answer would suffice), I am reminded the fire prevention public service announcements during Saturday cartoons: Stop, Drop, and Roll Continue reading

Free Song for Easter – Behold the Lamb

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I’ve never really been especially proud of this song which is quite ironic. It was one of the first songs that I had been given by the Lord. It was this song which the Lord used to put it on the Worship Leader’s heart at Calvary Chapel San Juan to give me a chance on the worship team for the Easter Sunday Service, for which he decided to keep me on the team. Being on the worship team is what gave me the opportunity to work with Chris and opened the door (one of several) which birthed this entire CD. Mercier adores this song and I hope that you enjoy it as well.

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I have less than 200 CDs left so I’ve put them on sale at CDBaby.

Click HERE to read the song stories.

Whatever You Do: Colossians 3:17

And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. ~ Colossians 3:17

Whatever. It’s a dismissive word when used as a response to correction. Teenagers are famous for saying it. In this context, however, especially since it follows the word “and,” we need to refer to the previous verse.

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. ~ Colossians 3:16

Ah. So then we know what proceeds Paul’s advice to the church – the richly dwelling word of God and singing that naturally overflows.

We could replace the word “and” with “so.”

“singing with grace to the Lord so whatever you do…”

Since, you’ve allowed the Word to take up your thoughts and change how you talk with one another, also allow this to effect whatever else you do.

Whatever You Do

This is my favorite down-to-earth verse because it helps me as an employee. Many people believe that “the ministry” is when you’re paid by the church as a full-time job (been there, done that). That makes it very easy to serve the Lord in whatever you’re doing. It’s like asking you to be happy in Disneyland. Continue reading

Let the Word Dwell: Colossians 3:16

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.

Colossians 3:16

The Christian life is often likened to a race, a marathon of sorts. But reading the Bible shouldn’t be. We’re often obsessed with reading plans and deadlines. Check. Check. Check! I read my (verse, chapter, book) quota today. Off with the rest of my tasks!

My challenge in this post, and with them all, is for you (us) to consider the word usage and placement and meaning. This is the inductive study method. Observe, interpret, apply. Repeat.

Straightaway in this passage I notice the verbs: dwell, teaching, admonishing, singing. In many ways this outlines a progression or the natural result of allowing the Word to affect your life.

Let the Word Dwell

The word, “let” is a verb that means to allow. This implies that you, as the believer, have a choice regarding this command. You should let the Word dwell in you. Make the choice. Allow it to dwell.

Dwell means to reside or occupy. To allow the Word of God to occupy “you” means to let it be the sole tenant in your very being – in your soul – in your heart. Let the word occupy your heart. The Word gives life to our conscience.

“For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12 

See, without the Word occupying our being, our conscience can become dull. A dull conscience is what leads to us not putting off the old man, not putting on Christ.

But wait; there’s more. Continue reading

Put on Love: Colossians 3:12-15

Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.

 

Colossians 3:12-15

In virtually every wedding ceremony, we hear the list of love from 1 Corinthians 13 and many of us have heard sermons where we are told the word “love” can be replaced with the name “Jesus” as He is the only one who has perfectly demonstrated those virtues.

Peace and love go hand in hand. Allowing the peace of God to rule in your hearts is conditioned upon putting on love. Many times, believers say they have peace with God yet harbor jealousy, bitterness, and unforgiveness. This letter to the church of Colosee sets out to put the record straight.

It is important for us to read the word of God (some people like reading plans) in the whole. I prefer to read books (I recently did Proverbs and am now in Psalms) in different translations because I find my brain skips over things “I know” when I only read the translation (NKJV) that I’m most familiar with. The Word is effective to work in you to transform you with your belief.

For this reason we also thank God without ceasing, because when you received the word of God which you heard from us, you welcomed it not as the word of men, but as it is in truth, the word of God, which also effectively works in you who believe. 1 Thessalonians 2:13

Just as, by an act of your will, you have to put off the former things, believers have to put on the Christ things. It’s true that living by a checklist doesn’t work, but as you think about who Christ is and when you allow the Word of God to do its work in you, your very nature will change. Continue reading

Don’t Be Put Off – Put it Off: Colossians 3:5-11

5 Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. 6 Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience, 7 in which you yourselves once walked when you lived in them.

8 But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. 9 Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds,10 and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him, 11 where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcised nor uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave nor free, but Christ is all and in all.

Colossians 3:5-11

Knowing that our minds should be set on the things of Heaven where Christ is, Paul encourages the believers to put off the former things – those behaviors and characteristics that are associated with the former life.

So many people get caught up in the “rule-keeping” aspect of Christianity. In many ways, it’s not about the rules, it’s about the attitudes of your heart. Like the laws of the Universe, the way we choose to be influenced (i.e. reading and obeying the word of God), determines our behavior.

For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. Romans 8:5

Yes, a Christian should not fornicate or covet but those behaviors would be cut off much sooner if the attitudes that precipitate the actions are cut off. Continue reading

Your Life is Hidden With Christ: Colossians 3:1-4

If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is our life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory. 

Colossians 3:1-4

Paul spent a good portion of Chapter 1 thanking the church of Colossee for their faith and love. He affirmed the work of Christ on their (and our) behalf. In the and the second chapter Paul exhorts them to stay away from false teaching. Here, in just four verses, Paul teaches them the gift of perspective.

Seek the Things Above

It’s so easy to seek the things and comforts of this world. We want to buy a house, plant a garden, and relax on Sundays watching football on our 60″ plasma. Hey, who doesn’t want that? But we are also told not to worry when we’re in need.

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Matthew 6:33 Continue reading

Self-Imposed Religion: Colossians 2:20-23

Therefore,if you died with Christ from the basic principles of the world, why, as though living in the world, do you subject yourselves to regulations— “Do not touch, do not taste, do not handle,” which all concern things which perish with the using—according to the commandments and doctrines of men? These things indeed have an appearance of wisdom in self-imposed religion, false humility, and neglect of the body, but are of no value against the indulgence of the flesh.

Colossians 2:20-23

Paul ends the chapter with a rhetorical question.  If Christ has done this great thing for you, then why do you continue to try to earn righteousness and salvation?  Well, it may have not been rhetorical in the sense that they needed to re-evaluate the “I can do this myself” theology, but it was rhetorical in the sense that this is an obvious thing. It’s a self-evident truth. Throughout the New Testament we see this theme: why are you trying to earn salvation?

Of course we are told to walk worthy of our salvation, but that is out of our love for Him, not a requirement for salvation. Continue reading

Hold Fast to the Head – Colossians 2:18-19

Let no one cheat you of your reward, taking delight in false humility and worship of angels, intruding into those things which he has not seen, vainly puffed up by his fleshly mind, and not holding fast to the Head, from whom all the body, nourished and knit together by joints and ligaments, grows with the increase that is from God.

Colossians 2:18-19

We like the new. It’s an obsession for some. New car, new house, new clothes, new music. In fact, in many ways, our quest for new music is an issue in the church, with record companies churning out music in a quantity over quality fashion in the name of “new” but I digress.

Marketers know this.  All they have to do is repackage a bottle of shampoo or laundry detergent with a big sticker that says “New and Improved” and we buy it.

Some false prophets have done the same. Knowing we have “itching ears,” they repackage and sometimes totally reinvent doctrine in order to be the latest, newest craze. Continue reading

Twenty Years of Marriage – No Small Feat

bridget-20year-350Twenty Years.

Two decades.

20% of a century.

However you parse it out. It’s a long time.

It may even be long enough to retire with full benefits from some jobs.

For me, I’m just glad our marriage beat the median.

Wikipedia says: “As of 2009, first marriages which ended in divorce lasted a median of 8 years for both men and women. The median time to separation from first marriages was about 7 years.”

We’ve had a lot of great times: days in Coronado, trips to Disneyland, weekends in Solvang.  But we’ve also had our share of adversity:  loss of a  business, miscarriage of a child, and bankruptcy.

I feel pretty confident in saying that I’ve made nearly every mistake possible.  I mean, it’s pretty hard to be a radical feminist and a good wife.  And since I’ve already made a controversial statement, may I recommend The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger?

I have this theory that my generation was raised to believe men are our enemy.  Now, I’m no appendage to “The Mr” but I do believe that the two should become one.  A lot of his dreams have become mine and vice versa.

Men want to be respected and women want to be loved.  That is a timeless truth.  And Mercier has loved me both in word and in deed.

And in this loving relationship, where I feel safe and supported, I am able, dare I say free, to pursue my hobbies including worship leading, songwriting, recording, devotional writing, social media interests, tweetups, and the like.

The bottom line is I wouldn’t be who I am today, if it weren’t for “The Mr.”

Bible Verses to Think About

Ecclesiastes 4:12
Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Ephesians 4:32
And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

Romans 12:18
If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.

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